When close relationships come to an end

Did you know that your nervous system interprets emotional pain in the same way that it processes physical pain?

When a close relationship ends, a range of emotions are triggered including sadness, disappointment, anger and anxiety, to name a few. These emotions can impact your nervous system by increasing your stress levels and activating the sympathetic nervous system, controlling your fight, flight or freeze response.

You experience somatic reactions like an increased heart rate, rapid breathing and muscle tension and the release of neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin, which impact your mood and well-being.

The end of a relationship is the beginning of grief and your nervous system is on fire and in danger. When the loss is unexpected, sudden or unwanted, the ending of a relationship can be a type of traumatic experience. The immense pain of heartbreak is often a wake-up call, an opportunity to regroup, reassess, and move towards a stronger, and more resilient version of yourself.

When this happens it is imperative to take care of yourself in practical ways:

1. Regulating your breathing

2. Physical care of your body

3. Seek support from your loved ones

4. Gentle walking in nature

5. Writing to express your feelings

6. Eat regular healthy meals

7. Be aware of stimulants - caffeine, alcohol, drugs

8. Take time away from social media

When you experience this shattering, you need to be kind and gentle with yourself. Giving yourself the time and patience to heal.