Want to hear my BEST EMBODIMENT PRACTICE for CONNECTION ?

 In the moments when the grief comes closer, I have been able to move the feelings of disconnect into feeling supported, held and loved. This practice emerges from my training as a Biomantic Practitioner.

One of the most most profound teachings from Biomancy is the knowing that my body is an oracle and "that my organs are Divinities living inside me, holding a beautiful temple of coherence." That the harmonic vibration within me resonates bringing in a unity from the Sun/Cosmos into the Earth.

Azra Bertrand, founder of Biomancy University writes: "There is an entire universe within, a world of body magic that is patiently waiting for us to learn its hidden languages. To open the doorway of a conscious communion and two way exchange of information. It is waiting for us to court it, to romance it, to biomance it; and when we do, our body and its holy organs will assist us to make a quantum leap in our health, radiance, vitality, relationships, creative projects, ability to manifest all that we desire."

These teachings have deepened my relationship with my body and with my practice of becoming embodied. These simple steps help us create breathing space to allow the grief to move through the body, turning pain into healing, sorrow into connection. The body becomes a conduit and oracle of pure magic and love.

When you feel disconnected or experience brain fog or the sorrow of grief, you often look for a simple practice that can help you to find connection and space to breathe, try this simple practice:

1. Standing/Lying on the earth or visualise yourself standing on the earth

2. Open your crown to receive pure light to enter

3. Visualise this light moving down through you body into the earth

4. Bring up the luminous light from the core of the earth -

5. Rising up through the soles of your feet -

6. Allowing the unified light into your heart

7. Feel your heart opening into connection with the Divine

Your body supports you as you navigate your life.

Honour and bless this incredible gift. 

Accepting and embracing life's transitions can be a great gift !

 

A life transition is any change or shift that impacts your life in a significant way. These transitions can be centred around exciting changes or distress and loss or milestones in age, status or role.

These transitions can be challenging for several reasons:

1. They bring about Change

2. They Increased Stress - eustress (motivating stress) or distress. Stress that continues for an extended period of time can negatively impact you emotionally, physically, and mentally.

3. And they could be Unexpected - Transitions that happen unexpectedly and have a direct impact on our daily lives can be challenging.

How can you embrace these transitions?

1. Prepare - When possible, try to prepare for your transition. Gather resources and support.

2. Set reasonable expectations - Unmet expectations can create frustration and stress. Feeling stress is normal as you are going through changes - your resources are there to support you.

3. Create a routine and flow - this helps you adjust to a transition. Create a morning and evening routines to facilitate a sense of consistency. Find a rhythm - regular sleep and wake times, a daily walk, meditation, or intention-setting for the day.

4. Check your self-talk - What types of things are you saying to yourself? Are these internal comments helping you cope with this transition or making the transition more challenging?

5. Set small goals - Instead of trying to fully resolve everything related to your transition, set small feasible goals to take on one at a time.

6. Stay connected - support from friends and loved ones is critical during times of transition.

7. Practice self-compassion - Change is difficult and know that you will not always navigate life transitions perfectly. Be kind and gentle with yourself.

Life transitions are openings to explore new opportunities and paths and when you are able to embrace them and give them the time and space they need, you allow the change its process. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel - its how you support yourself through the tunnel. And embrace yourself when you get to the other side.

Let's get back to basics.

What are your ethics of how you interact in your life, in your relationships, in your work and with your Spiritual connection?

There are times where things untangle and become extremely uncomfortable. Times where we may feel abandoned by everything that is familiar and safe.  

What I find really helpful in times of immense stress and feeling uncomfortable, is to go back to basics.  Where I feel supported and safe.  Simple practices that regulate my nervous system and help me feel the emotions that are being triggered.

There are my basics:

• Breathing. Try box breath:
  •  In for four - hold for four - out for four - hold for four.  This calms your nervous system and brings you into calm.
• Grounding - going outside, take off shoes and feel the connection with your feet on the earth. Close your eyes and rooting yourself in Mother Earth.
• Sitting or lying on the earth helps immensely - this is where you can visualize and feel the pulse and rhythm of the earth connected with your own heartbeat.  
• Prayer - Mantra - singing and chanting mantras with intention and feeling connected within.  Repeating the same prayer over and over - try 108 times 
  • (According to Ayurveda, we have 108 marma points (vital points of life forces) in your body. When you chant 108 times, each chant represents a journey from our material self towards our highest spiritual self.)
• Drinking a glass of water that you have blessed and thanked for its healing and calming gifts. 
• Gentle walking and paying attention to all that is around you. Listening to the sound of your feet walking on the earth. Seeing the beauty of nature.

These are basic, embodiment practices that give you space and time to connect with yourself and calm your nervous system.  

Check-in with yourself right now. What are your basics?

When you can respond to life from a calm and self compassionate place, then the untangling and dealing with what you need to deal with flows with more ease. And you are taking care of yourself.

Are you comfortable about talking about death ?

Check-in and feel into your body's response to that question.

Death is a part of life - we are all going to die! And when we can release the fear of dying and come into a place of acceptance of this, we have the opportunity to shift into living intentionally and authentically.

Ram Dass shares: There is a tombstone in Ashby, Massachusetts that reads, “Remember friend, as you pass by, as you are now, so once was I. As I am now, so you must be. Prepare yourself to follow me.”

It can both sobering and inspiring knowing that you have a choice to embrace the fact that you are going to die. And how you would like to live your life before then. Imagine sitting with your loved ones and sharing how you would like to die? Where you would like to be, who you would like to be there, to have time to appreciate and honour the life you have lived?

Normalizing death as part of life creates opportunities to have meaningful conversations about life. It demystifies the often difficult inner conversations. I have always spoken to my loved ones about how I would like to end my life and what I would like to do with my body. I have a sacred river where I feel most connected with God and with all of life. That is my choice of resting place. I recorded my wishes in my will so that I know my wishes will be carried out. Actions like this bring death closer and allow for meaningful and honouring conversations.

When close relationships come to an end

Did you know that your nervous system interprets emotional pain in the same way that it processes physical pain?

When a close relationship ends, a range of emotions are triggered including sadness, disappointment, anger and anxiety, to name a few. These emotions can impact your nervous system by increasing your stress levels and activating the sympathetic nervous system, controlling your fight, flight or freeze response.

You experience somatic reactions like an increased heart rate, rapid breathing and muscle tension and the release of neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin, which impact your mood and well-being.

The end of a relationship is the beginning of grief and your nervous system is on fire and in danger. When the loss is unexpected, sudden or unwanted, the ending of a relationship can be a type of traumatic experience. The immense pain of heartbreak is often a wake-up call, an opportunity to regroup, reassess, and move towards a stronger, and more resilient version of yourself.

When this happens it is imperative to take care of yourself in practical ways:

1. Regulating your breathing

2. Physical care of your body

3. Seek support from your loved ones

4. Gentle walking in nature

5. Writing to express your feelings

6. Eat regular healthy meals

7. Be aware of stimulants - caffeine, alcohol, drugs

8. Take time away from social media

When you experience this shattering, you need to be kind and gentle with yourself. Giving yourself the time and patience to heal.

Meeting yourself when your sorrow is overhwhelming

Sorrow is a feeling of deep distress caused by loss, disappointment or other misfortunes suffered by yourself or others and you experience in different ways:

1. intense sorrow, pain and rumination over the cause of the devastation

2. focusing on little else but the devastation

3. constant mind chatter as your try to make sense of what has happened

4. triggers of time and sense reminders (sound, smell, taste, sight and touch)

5. intense and persistent longing and pining for what is lost or broken

6. struggling to accept

7. feeling numb or detached from everyday life

Taking time to gently meet yourself in these sorrowful moments, helps you take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself helps you to :

1. Express your feelings and acknowledge that grieving is painful, but necessary

2. Be patient with yourself

3. Find ways to be creative

4. Be physically active

5. Gently forgive yourself

6. Have a daily practice

7. Stay connected, grounded and present